"Children need and want boundaries. Every child knows what it feels like to be happy and what it feels like to be miserable, which is why they ask for limits. They will push the limits as a way to discover for themselves what the limits are, but a child who knows their limits, and for who the limits are trustworthy and reliable, is a child who will be happy and confident.
Between ages two and four, an immediate response to the circumstance and fair, non-arbitrary discipline is crucial because that's when children get their major teaching about boundaries. Setting consequences for breaking boundaries is an important consideration here. We need to know what to do and when to do it, and quickly. To set consequences a week after something happened is useless for a young child - after a week it is a different universe for them. Consequences should fit the disobedience, and be directly in time with the vent, so the child knows what the consequence is for."
from "CONSCIOUS PARENTING" pages 142 & 143, by Lee Lozowick, © 2010 HOHM PRESS, Chino Valley, AZ.Last modified on